Life can be difficult when you have the overwhelming feeling that you are a burden on people. Feeling accepted can do wonders for someone’s self esteem. When we look for acceptance in people who think of us as a burden, we’re setting ourselves up to be hurt. Sometimes there’s a lack of a better option. You should never feel that you can not open up to someone. Having someone there who can just listen is something worth seeking out. Never be afraid to change who you surround yourself with. Sometimes relationships can be toxic and when they are, it can leave you feeling worthless. We all need someone, it’s the human condition. A primal erg to not be alone. Indulge that erg, but be careful who you want to let in. Some people are not meant to be in your life.
The burdens you bare have a significant affect on everything. You should learn how to separate your burdens and the emotional role the play in your life, from the experiences you go through day to day. A big problem I have is, I struggle when it comes to not letting my burdens stop me from enjoying something. It’s important to recognize when that is happening. Sometimes just the recognition of it is enough to let you stop and think about how to clear your mind, how to move past the burden and get back to what’s going on around. Once you recognize the issue, try to ground yourself. Mentally put yourself into your surroundings. Smell the air around you, feel the breeze, putting yourself in the moment can help you get back to the situation you’re in. It may even help you appreciate what’s in front of you at the moment.
Writing things out can help you in more ways than one. If you find yourself at night, overthinking, having a hard time getting to sleep and letting your mind get the best of you. (Like me right now). Try to focus your thoughts into words. You can write about anything you want to. I chose to write partly about what’s going on in my head, along with other things like solutions or different scenarios. It what goes on in my head anyway but the helps me get out of my head. Focusing your racing thoughts through writing could also help you find solutions to your burdens. Instead of sitting there, mind racing and not really thinking of solutions. Try writing it out. The construction of writing something may help to give you order. Order should help you think clearer and help you find solutions. Instead of worrying about everything because sometimes just closing your eyes and not moving won’t put you to sleep.
Learning tools to handle your burdens gives you an advantage in life. You will enjoy things more and be able to be in the moment without distractions. Having burdens is part of being human but there are ways to handle them. Find what works best for in you in a healthy manor. Start tackling your day with a clear focused mind.